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Been working from home for about two full weeks now and I am loving it.  There have been some adjustments and likely will be a few more, but nothing major.  The biggest thing right now is training Bossman so that I don't have to meet up with him daily (in the beginning it was twice a day).  He's coming around.  It makes a huge difference that I no longer have a parking pass to park downtown. Parking can be a nightmare at different times during the day, especially if there's a baseball game scheduled.  DH and my son have respected work boundaries and left me to get things done.  The cat however, is a different story.  She loves my desk and all the paperwork that goes with it.  I have to shake things out before I take them to Bossman to make sure there isn't cat hair all over it.  She's going into heat this week too, which is making it worse.  We really need to get her fixed.  There's a ton more freedom at home to come and go as I please and run the occasional errand here and there.

Our basement leeches moved out as planned and it has been wonderfully peaceful around here.  Stuff has stopped going missing - I know she pawned a bunch of our stuff like a DVD player and an old stereo that we didn't use - and there's just been no chaos and drama.  Her son moved out as well.  One too many times getting caught with weed in the house.  He was warned.  Multiple times.  It wasn't even so much about the weed, but about the disrespect of the rules we have and our authority.  When we told him that we needed to discuss what had happened at dinner that evening, he never came home for dinner.  I haven't seen or heard from him since.  I know he's okay - living with a friend at least temporarily - but the idea that he wouldn't even face us says a lot and is a bit hurtful to be honest.  He spent three years with us.  You would think he'd have the balls to face the consequences.  He might have even been able to plead his case and change our minds, but he didn't even care to make that effort.

I actually got some writing done on The Insignificants last night.  Finished 5 character sheets, discovered their last names, and have a few ideas for how they're introduced into the story and a few other scenes.  I have a childhood friend who published her first YA novel and she's kind of inspired me to try harder to pull this stuff together.

I've also been in a bit of a tailspin regarding my son's schooling for next year.  He's fallen through cracks once again.  The program he's in is a short term solution and he's been there for two years.  His IEP is hindering him from getting into the option schools in the area, and I won't allow him to go to his home school because his accusers go there and he doesn't need to combat that and struggle through classes.  He's never been in a traditional high school environment, so expecting him to go right back to a regular high school seems like setting him up for failure.  He'll be 18 in September, and even though the law states that he can get services until he's 21, I feel like the school district is pushing him out because they just don't want to be bothered dealing with him anymore.  Their "solution" is to recommend that he apply to Job Corps, which is run by the federal government.  While the program sounds like a great deal, there are some drawbacks and I'm not sure he'll qualify because we make too much money.  He may have to wait until he's 18 to apply so he can do it independent of us.  We have one more option school to look into that supposedly works with kids in similar situations to my son, but that isn't until July and there's no guarantee that he'll be accepted for the school year that starts in the fall.  I hate to have him "drop out", but we're out of options, and I'm just getting tired of fighting when he shows minimal effort and the schools have shitty suggestions or pump his head full of unrealistic dreams and goals.  In the meantime, I've been pushing him to get a job.  He's had a few good prospects, but hasn't had many call backs.

Things with my step-daughter have deteriorated to my husband being a "sperm donor" and me a "big fake".  Keep in mind that she's almost 21.  We haven't heard from her at all except for two weeks ago when she wanted my husband to watch her son until her mother could pick him up.  (I was out of town.)  She didn't even confirm with DH that he could, just had our grandson's father drop him off.  It was pure luck that DH happened to be home at the time.  I doubt it will happen again though because she recently figured out that we haven't been making her car payment for her.  Because, you know, she's entitled to having us do that for her.  We're just awful, evil people for not taking care of all her bills.  I'm going to end up taking a hit to my credit when they repo the car because I co-signed for the loan, but it's a lesson learned for both her and me.  It's a horrible thing to have to distance yourself from a child, and a decision I've asked forgiveness for almost daily, but I can't let her caustic, vidictive personality rule our lives any more.  We've all begged her to get help but she refuses.  She doesn't think she needs it.

I've still been playing Sims 2 in the evenings.  Not really documenting a whole lot though.  I've been building, refreshing my memory on how to build on sloped lots and re-acquainting myself with the different decorating options available.  I haven't downloaded an abundance of custom content this time - just some "necessities" - and it's been fun to see what can be done with what the game gives me and my limited recoloring skills.  I have a neighborhood that I play strictly on rotation, and we're getting to the third generation, so it's been fun.

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bellemistoire
Jun. 4th, 2015 11:48 pm (UTC)
Job corp is a good program, but it isn't the greatest solution to graduating from HS.

IDK how close your son is to graduation or how many credits he has left, but given his age, he should definitely have full services for next year. I hope they've talked to you about blended programs of online and/or highschool and/or community college classes as well, because there are a lot of really good blended programs, as well as CTE bridge programs out there that help kids graduate.
tatdatcm
Jun. 8th, 2015 03:31 pm (UTC)
He will be a senior but only has enough credits for a 1st semester sophomore. He's not self-directed at all. I think Job Corps would be good for him because he would be able to learn a specific trade.

I'd love for him to have a diploma, but that dream keeps moving further and further away. I just want him to find something he's interested enough in that he can make a living and not end up jumping from job to job.

On a positive note, he has a job interview scheduled for this afternoon. :)
bellemistoire
Jun. 8th, 2015 11:15 pm (UTC)
Yay for the interview! I hope he got it.

Sounds like GED plus some kind of trade-training might end up being the option in the end, but if he makes it through this year, he may eventually come around.
lauriempress
Jun. 5th, 2015 12:16 am (UTC)
*hug* Sounds like a mixed bag of good news bad news. I'm just hoping that the good news outweighs the bad, and continues to do so. *more hugs*
tatdatcm
Jun. 8th, 2015 03:32 pm (UTC)
It is a mixed bag. That seems to be how my life goes though. :) Fortunately, there's a lot of happy going on.
adoptedwriter
Jun. 5th, 2015 02:13 am (UTC)
Sorry to hear your step daughter has been such a turkey. AW
tatdatcm
Jun. 8th, 2015 03:35 pm (UTC)
It's really a hard thing to be dealing with and has damaged our relationship. It will take a long time to repair if she's interested in doing so.
jennickels
Jun. 5th, 2015 03:20 am (UTC)
Wow, lots going on.

I've been trying to do some freelance work at home, but my family absolutely does not respect that. They want me to stop whatever I'm doing when they want something. It's annoying.

Your step-daughter sounds like a real piece of work.

Sounds good on the novel. I haven't had time to work on mine since the design gig. I have been writing some fanfic, though, which is a start.

I have no advice about your son. My daughter is flunking the 9th grade because of behavior issues (which can be read about on my LJ). It's frustrating because she's so freaking smart--too smart to be failing. The school doesn't seem to care much that she hasn't been showing up or doing any work. She thinks it's no big deal, but if she doesn't pass next year, she'll be in the same grade as her brother (he's currently in 7th).

I haven't played Sims 2 in forever. I had so many bugs with it--making it almost unplayable after a while. I did have one neighborhood that I did a legacy in. I was up to generation 7 before the bugs destroyed the game. I prefer Sims 3, although I installed too many EPs on my laptop so it barely runs the game any more. Sims 4 is okay (I mostly got it for my kids)--I like building with it, but I miss all the things I love about Sims 3. Also, my laptop will only run it on low settings.
tatdatcm
Jun. 8th, 2015 03:51 pm (UTC)
I've read your posts. You've done awesome cover work. It's hard when family doesn't respect your time and space. I went through a lot of that when the kids were younger and my marriage was younger. Hopefully it gets better for you.

My step-daughter's got problems. I wish she could see her part in them, but she just doesn't.

It's been a long time since ideas have come to me for the novel and characters, so I've been kind of excited to "hear" those voices again.

My son is smart too, just not on the tests and various evaluations they give him, which makes them repeat the curriculum over and over for him and he loses interest quickly. Last year, I finally told them to skip over fractions and move on toward life skills. They listened to me and his first unit was on budgeting and keeping a checkbook, which will be way more helpful to him than figuring out percentages. He'll have access to calculators for that. Is your daughter bored at school and that's part of why she doesn't go? I know you're having other issues with her too from reading your entries.

I never got into Sims 3, but I have Sims 4 and it's ok. I haven't played enough to discover ALL THE THINGS. Sims 2 is still my favorite.
the_dark_snack
Oct. 2nd, 2015 10:05 am (UTC)
Happy Birthday!
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